One week " Special Holiday "
kerja rumah dibiarkan . Kerja kursus dilupakan . that's why holiday is a bad idea for me when it's come to homeworks ..Dapat 5 hari cuti pn susah klu d rmah kjarmah x siap2 ..
online , then i found this .. read :) enjoy ..share ..
-
-
1
Be patient. There are no quick fixes. The only way to get
through down times is to sit with the pain. As a parent, it is up to you
to hold the space for sadness. Don't rush in too quickly to fix the
problem. Encourage your teen to feel the pain, to express it when she's
ready. Be with him, but don't try to cheer him up too quickly.
-
2
Let tears flow. It may sound backward, but the best thing
you can do for your teen is to encourage your teen to feel sad, to cry.
Crying is good, natural and healing. Whether it is a breakup with a
girlfriend or boyfriend, a disappointing loss of the election for
student body office, a cut from the baseball team or being ditched by
friends, teens do feel sad. Tell them that you are there for them. There
is no need to feel ashamed for being sad or for crying.
-
3
Speak of sadness. Your teen needs you to talk about sadness.
It's reassuring to hear that a heavy heart is natural, part of the
human condition. Teens sometimes feel as if they are drowning in sadness
and that they are the only ones who feel this way. Let them know that
they are not alone. Sadness comes and goes. One day it's here and then
it's gone. Sadness is a sign of a tender heart; a tender heart is
beautiful.
- 4
Let them know they're not alone. One night, 17-year-old
Claire and her girlfriends were driving around, everyone laughing, yet
for some reason, Molly felt sad inside and was quiet. When one of the
girls asked what was wrong with her, Molly burst into tears. She was sad
and she didn't know why. Liza gave Molly a hug and said, "Do you think
I'm happy? I feel sad too. I'm just pretending to feel happy, hoping it
will make me feel better." This was a big revelation for all the girls.
-
5
Share. We all feel heartsick at times, depressed for no
reason, lonely even when we have friends. Let your teen know that they
are not alone in their sadness. Share a sad moment from your own teen
years and how you recovered.
-
6
Encourage rest. A teen needs to know that it is OK to rest
and go slow. When you have a physical injury, you give your body time to
rest and recover. When you have an emotional trauma, like your
boyfriend breaking up with you, a fight with a friend or parents'
divorce, you will be upset and need rest too. Encourage your teen to
take it easy, take a gentle walk, take a nap, listen to soft music, skip
a day of school. The more you take care of body and soul during a
difficult emotional time, the sooner you will bounce back.
SHARE! .
Teenage diplomacy: Advice from a dad
By
Mark Hodson, Editor of
101 Holidays (and father of a 16-year-old boy)
We’ve all been teenagers but until you’ve been a parent of a teenager
on holiday you might not understand the tension that can be created by
inflexible attitudes on both sides.
Here are my tips:
1. Give them space. Teenagers need their own rooms where they won’t
be nagged about making their beds, drawing their curtains, etc. I think
self-catering holidays work well in this respect.
2. Don’t plan too many early mornings. Most teenagers have been
working hard at school, getting up at what seems to them like a stupid
time of the morning. On holiday they deserve a lie-in. If you do plan a
family day out that requires an early morning, discuss it with them
beforehand.
3. Accept that they won’t want to do the same as you. Some days they
may prefer to stay in bed all day. That’s fine. Enjoy the time without
them, as they will enjoy the time without you.
4. Many teenagers prefer not to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner at
regular times. They will starve themselves for hours then pile into the
fridge. Another reason to opt for self-catering accommodation (with a
well-stocked fridge).
5. Get them involved. Ask them to join you on a food shop so they can
help plan the catering, and invite them to cook dinner one evening. Let
them plan a day out, researching the route and things to do online.
6. Talking of online, you might feel that a fortnight without the
internet is a treat. A teenager will regard it as torture. Perhaps make some ground
rules on its use (eg daily Facebooking is fine, but five hours on a
multi-player online games site is not).
